12 Tips for a Bueno Casa

You like that Spanglish title? I knew you would.

Last night I shared 10 Tips for Raising Little Dudes. So, it seems like a good time to keep dropping some knowledge in list form.

Tonight’s list offers some ideas for a happy home, and I’m digging these thoughts from The Happiness Project. There are some great tips here that we can put to use at the Dude casa right away.

Here are the bueno tips…with some added comments from the Dude. Enjoy.

12 tips for a Happier Home:

  1. Turn routines into games. No one likes picking up toys. Making it a game is much better.
  2. Control the level of noise. “Inside voice, quiet. Inside voice, quiet.” Yo Gabba Gabba, anyone? For real, keep the yelling to a minimum.
  3. Organize space so it’s attractive, well organized, and well lit. One of my most important Secrets of Adulthood: Outer order contributes to inner calm. – Not the Dude’s comment, but I agree. Get rid of that clutter!
  4. Plan times each day for relaxing activities. For real, relax. We’re all too stressed. Find a way to let it go and be calm.
  5. Encourage a feeling of belonging, e.g., by displaying children’s work and pictures. Love it. Having the kids art work around makes them proud and adds some awesome art to the walls.
  6. Consider children’s reactions when making an unavoidable change. It’s easy to forget how the kids feel. I tend to be the “suck it up” type, but I’m learning to think about feelings more…thanks Mrs. Dude. 😉
  7. Balance indoor and outdoor activities. Every day, outside. No exceptions. Get outside, even if it’s just a few minutes. Breathe fresh air. Remember that we’re all part of nature. Get outside.
  8. Make sure there’s plenty of time to get things done without rushing. Mrs. Dude, did you read that one? Just kidding, you’re perfect. 🙂
  9. Provide opportunities for curiosity and creativity. Same as getting outside, no exceptions. Be curious, be creative; everyday.
  10. Speak in a calm voice. Nice voice, always. Little Dude gets this reminder quite a bit…he’s at the MINE stage.
  11. Explain the behavior you’d like to see in a clear, respectful way. Not “Settle down,” but “Sit in your chair with your feet under your desk.” Not “I could use a little help around here,” but “Please unload the dishwasher so we can get the dirty dishes out of the sink.” – Not the Dude’s comment, but oooh, I dig this. Clarity is crucial….Dude is learning this too.
  12. Meet people’s basic needs. Children and adults need to eat, drink, go to the bathroom, rest, and spend time outside. That’s it. Don’t make life harder than it is. Solve the basic needs, the rest is gravy.

10 Tips for Raising Little Dudes

Did you go vote today? The votes are being tallied as I type. Who will be named the next US Pres?

The Dude’s election prediction: The Man wins again.

The good news, we can finally stop talking about voting and elections very soon. And the 24 hour news cycle will find the next tragedy to focus on. Yay!

Let’s speed up this cycle here on DKB and focus on something meaningful – the kiddos.

I’m not sure who this Susan Sontag cat is, but she’s got a sweet top 10 list of tips for raising little dudes. (Tip o’ the hat to Brain Pickings for sharing the love.)

First, a reminder of how The Man views the kiddos – yes, this is what you voted for today…

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=618U-_8o31k[/youtube]

 – Thanks for sharing the love Lew.

Ms. Sontag’s 10 rules for raising super rad little dudes…

  1. Be consistent.
  2. Don’t speak about him to others (e.g., tell funny things) in his presence. (Don’t make him self-conscious.)
  3. Don’t praise him for something I wouldn’t always accept as good.
  4. Don’t reprimand him harshly for something he’s been allowed to do.
  5. Daily routine: eating, homework, bath, teeth, room, story, bed.
  6. Don’t allow him to monopolize me when I am with other people.
  7. Always speak well of his pop. (No faces, sighs, impatience, etc.)
  8. Do not discourage childish fantasies.
  9. Make him aware that there is a grown-up world that’s none of his business.
  10. Don’t assume that what I don’t like to do (bath, hairwash) he won’t like either.

The Dude’s Non-Voting Extravaganza

Are you getting out to conduct your civic duty on Tuesday?

Why? Seriously, why?

It’s worth taking the time to give yourself a good answer.

Politics is a joke. And the argument that “every vote counts,” is pretty thin. Electoral College….enough said. The 2000 elections…enough said. Understand how corrupt the system is and it’s pretty evident that most (all?) votes are pretty meaningless.

In fact, I’d take it a step further and say by voting, we are actually doing more harm than good. We are offering our support for a system that is broken. We are telling the thieves that run the show that we validate their existence.

“If you don’t vote, you can’t complain.” Really? How about if you vote, you can’t complain? You put them there. You support them.

I get the idea that we should be proud to have the “freedom” to participate in our government. But again, pretty thin. I know, it would awful to live without the freedoms that the US affords us, but take a look around, freedoms are being taken from us on the regular by the people we’re voting into office to “protect” our interests.

They (i.e politicians, government agencies, corporations, lobbyists) are watching our every move, saving our emails, our phone calls, our text messages. The U.S. government – the ones we support by offering our votes – want to have the right to detain U.S. citizens indefinitely without a trial if they are viewed as a “terrorist.” And how are we defining “terrorist?” Is a blog post like this going to constitute “terrorism” at some point? The list of freedom removal is long and growing.

Creating the mock-reality that we are “choosing” our “leaders” does not make up for the inexcusable actions of those “leaders” when they are in office.

But “it’s the best system the world has to offer.” Maybe. But does that mean we should settle for a pile of crap that is less stank than the other piles of crap?

We’re better than what we have.

The idea of participating in your government by voting every four years is a nice platitude, but the reality doesn’t fit the 4th grade social studies lesson most of us build our worldview upon.

So, who’s the Dude voting for? Yeah, I’m no longer voting.

I’ve made this claim before, and I’ve still come off the bench to cast a ballot, but I’m pretty serious about it.

Looking back, I realize that I’ve only voted in two elections – Ross Perot (I was 18, and this could be my proudest voting moment…Perot 🙂 that dude was classic!), and Obama.

Side note: I did try to vote against George W. one time, but I moved around a bunch at the time, and when I showed up to vote, I realized I was no longer registered. Woops.

I came off the bench to vote for Obama. Huge disappointment, but not unexpected. He’s part of the system like all the rest.

I voted because there was a chance he could be different (which he isn’t), but more importantly, I wanted to see the US move past the racial issue of a black president. And I wanted to be a part of something that had that much symbolic significance. In the end, I’m not disappointed with my choice to vote…just consistently disappointed with the system that we have to endure.

In my opinion, politics is a waste – at this point in history – but overall, life is pretty great. I’ll stay focused on the positive and save my time and stay home on Tuesday.

Alright, off my virtual soapbox, but here are some links/ideas to consider as you decide if you’re going to waste your time at the ballot box. Enjoy…and seriously consider the option of not voting. Choosing the lesser of two evils is not a choice.

1. Let’s start by acknowledging that the Dude is not even close to alone in the non-voting stand, Foreign Policy reports:

[W]hat I don’t understand is why no one is addressing the elephant in the room: the fact that some 40 percent of Americans of voting age don’t see any reason to cast their votes on election day at all.

In national election after national election, eligible voters who choose to refrain from voting make up what some political scientists have called a “silent plurality.” There have been moments when that plurality was pretty close to becoming a majority. In 1996, 49.1 percent of the voting age population declined to go to the polls. In 2008, turnout of eligible voters went all the way up to 61.7 percent — the highest since 1968, mind you. But the number of those who refused to vote — or just didn’t care — was still significantly larger than those who voted for Barack Obama, the winning candidate. Non-voters, in short, make up the biggest electoral bloc in the nation.

And one of the smartest comedians (yes, comedy is a form of social commentary) we have been graced by, George Carlin, didn’t vote either…I consider myself in good company:

“I have solved this political dilemma in a very direct way: I don’t vote. On Election Day, I stay home. I firmly believe that if you vote, you have no right to complain. Now, some people like to twist that around. They say, ‘If you don’t vote, you have no right to complain,’ but where’s the logic in that? If you vote, and you elect dishonest, incompetent politicians, and they get into office and screw everything up, you are responsible for what they have done. You voted them in. You caused the problem. You have no right to complain. I, on the other hand, who did not vote — who did not even leave the house on Election Day — am in no way responsible for what these politicians have done and have every right to complain about the mess that you created.” — George Carlin

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HeMGqTwWA6U[/youtube]

2. Here’s an interesting quote from thought-leader (I mean magician) Penn, from the famed Penn & Teller about taxes and compassion. By the way, forcing obscene tax rates is taking money by gunpoint. What happens if you don’t pay? Right, jail, take your possessions, etc. – guns will be there when that happens.

“It’s amazing to me how many people think that voting to have the government give poor people money is compassion. Helping poor and suffering people is compassion. Voting for our government to use guns to give money to help poor and suffering people is immoral self-righteous bullying laziness.

People need to be fed, medicated, educated, clothed, and sheltered, and if we’re compassionate we’ll help them, but you get no moral credit for forcing other people to do what you think is right. There is great joy in helping people, but no joy in doing it at gunpoint.”

3. Hmmm…ok Penn, I get where you’re coming from, but c’mon, Welfare is not where the majority of our taxes are being spent, right? How about empire building…I mean “spreading democracy”? Could 53% of our tax money really go to military spending?! This video thinks so…

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HQiELpyBIrM[/youtube]

Side note: That YouTube channel, Tragedy & Hope, has some great info. Checkout the videos of former NY State & NY City Teacher of the Year, John Taylor Gatto. Geesh, education is an entirely different mountain to scale.

4. Let’s talk corruption. Here’s a quick talk from the Daily Beast’s David Frum where he discusses American corruption at the University of Florida. Everyone has different ideas, and I’m not married to this dude, but check out this point…

“…what we now see are members voting for very specific investment-oriented things in which they share the benefit with ten people, or twelve people. And finally there’s this very haunting fact that whenever we study the stock portfolios of members of congress, they seem to do about twice as well as the market.”

C’mon, shit ain’t right. I’m sure this is only one small example of the corruption running rampant through the world political systems, and I have no faith the next round of elected criminals are going to limit their own stealing.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ANtlKsY_3Fo[/youtube]

 5. People are awesome. Why do we let the government get in our way?!

  • An example from current events – i.e. the Sandy Frankenstorm: A group of Christian electricians from Decatur, Alabama, drove to New Jersey to offer their services for free. They were turned back by officials because they’re non-union.
  • And on the other end of the spectrum, if we could only get out of our own way: What happens if you give a thousand Motorola Zoom tablet PCs to Ethiopian kids who have never even seen a printed word? Within five months, they’ll start teaching themselves English while circumventing the security on your OS to customize settings and activate disabled hardware.

6. If the Dude was going to vote, this kid would sure be getting my vote…

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7bW7s98R088&feature=relmfu[/youtube]

7. Most importantly, who are the Simpsons voting for?! Once again, yes, comedy is social commentary…

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ArC7XarwnWI[/youtube]

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ltCIEbLMaQg[/youtube]

That’s Tight! (TGT) The Dude Can Finally Grow Up.

My Mom’s prayers have been answered. The Dude can finally carry a wallet.

Here’s the “wallet” I’ve been carrying for years.

Dude's Wallet - Not Tight

Dude’s Wallet – Not Tight

Sweet hairbands, right?

Momzilla has tried numerous times to buy her bambino an actual wallet. But it’s just not my thang.

I’m not a fan of clutter, and I don’t dig a lot of stuff in my pocket. The Dude is a simple man.

Thank you TGT for making the Dude and my Moms happy. The perfect wallet. At 35, I can finally graduate to an actual wallet.

TGT Cowman 2.0

TGT Cowman 2.0

Support this KickStarter campaign. It’s pretty great, and Jack Sutter seems like a pretty rad dude.

Nice work Jack.

Darn right I have a sweet TGT Cowman 2.0 headed my way!

Let’s Get Creative

create something!

create something!

The world is a crazy place. Frankenstorms, economic roller coasters, political wastelands, but you know what? We are lucky enough to live in some amazing times.

Forget the craziness. Let’s focus on being creative.

I came across a couple great blog posts today that offer some creative inspiration. So, I figured I’d pass the inspiration to you.

First, here’s a post by Seth Godin that offers some much needed perspective.

Seth is good; amazingly creative. But I tend to shy away from him because he’s become a bit to popular for my liking – the Dude tends to have an irrational aversion to anything mainstream. Sorry Seth.

But I love these thoughts…

  • There’s never been a better opportunity to step up and make an impact, while we’ve got the chance. This generation, this decade, right now, there are more opportunities to connect and do art than ever before. Maybe even today.
  • It’s more important than ever [t]o persist and make a dent in the universe[.]
  • We’ve all been offered access to so many tools, so many valuable connections, so many committed people. What an opportunity.

It’s time to create. It’s time to “Make Good Art.” It doesn’t matter what it is. Just create.

Numero dos, a post by the CTO (Chief Technology Officer) for TwitPic, Steven Corona. I just started following Steve’s blog the other day (can I call you Steve? Thanks. :)). I think this is the first post I’ve received. But it’s a gem.

Steve synchronictically builds on Seth’s post by offering some advice to get the creative juices flowing

  • You don’t need to be an expert to solve a problem and it doesn’t need to be perfect the first time. Cut before your measure.
  • Block off a chunk of time; 6 [hours] is good 12 is better.
  • Write out as many actionable steps as you can in 2 minutes. After 2 minutes, stop. You now have your plan.
  • When you’re creating, Google is off limits.
  • When you set yourself up for success, creating, doing something actionable, is the easiest part.

Creativity. It’s magical. And we all have access to it. Use it.

Little Dude’s First Haircut. What Were We Thinking?!

We experienced Little Dude’s first “real” haircut today.

As you may recall, we’ve shaved that melon a couple times, but it has been almost exactly two years since we’ve touched that glorious coif.

As you can probably tell from my choice of adjectives, this has been a stressful day.

Mrs. Dude rolled out a fantastic blog post recapping Little Dude’s first haircut (yes, apparently we have blogging wars in our house. :)), so I won’t recreate the wheel. But I will make a few points and send you along to my lovely bride’s fantastic site.

  1. I need to start by saying how much we absolutely without a doubt whole-heartedly adored the Little Man’s hair. For real. Loved it! Look at that before shot…

    Little Dude - Before THE Haircut

    Little Dude – Before THE Haircut

  2. Little Dude hated every minute of this experience. Refer to Mrs. D’s post for photographic reference.
  3. The Dude’s dome is desolate when it comes to hair follicles.  Why would anyone let me sit in a barber’s chair (literally have not been in one in 10 years), hold my son while he screams and cries,  and then ask me for direction about my two year old’s mane?!
  4. I’ve given Mrs. Dude direction about this haircut for six months…”just an inch, no more, just an inch.” Why did I choke under pressure? Mrs. Dude reminds me that I uttered the words, “we’re not worried about the length, just make it look natural.” What?! Length is ALL we were worried about! Who am I, Vidal Sassoon?! Natural?! I shave my head with a bic razor that I sharpen on my jeans. What do I know about “natural?” Just trim that shit! How hard is that?!

I’ll preface this by saying that he’s our son, he will ALWAYS be amazingly handsome to us. HOWEVER, who is that dude? And where did his hair go.

Little Dude - After

Little Dude – After

Can’t put the toothpaste back in the tube.

How could a haircut be this stressful?

Geesh! Maybe bald is beautiful.

Check out Mrs. Dude’s post…she’s pretty great. 🙂

A Remote Helicopter that Drops Ping Pong Balls. Need I Say More?!

iStrike Shuttle

iStrike Shuttle

“Let me write my blog post about stupid helicopters that drop ping pong balls,” says the sarcastic pregnant lady playing backseat blog writer.

Ladies just don’t get it.

But I bet the dudes in the audience are lovin’ this one.

A remote helicopter that is controlled by your iPhone…AND drops ping pong balls!!!!

Video evidence below. Wait for it, wait for it…50 second mark, bam! Dropping ping pong balls.

You can remotely drop a ping pong ball on the lady that does not understand why you would enjoy remotely dropping a ping pong ball. Awesome.

Need I say more? I think not.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NHkXJpftxe4[/youtube]

Life Moves Fast

One of my all-time favorite quotes is from the wise sage Ferris Bueller.

“Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=91lJhEzMaH4[/youtube]

So true. As age creeps on, it’s amazing how quickly the clock ticks on. There never seems to be enough time.

I guess the secret is to enjoy the time we have. But it sure would be nice to have an extra few hours.

So, what could we do with some added hours in our day? Below is a great infographic about “what we could do with an extra two hours,” but first, a bit about the source of the goods.

Hat tip to The Art of Less Doing for sharing the love, but this originated at the FancyHands.com Pintrest page.

FancyHands. Great name.

I’ve never used them, but I love the concept. “Assistants for Everyone.”

Virtual assistants that will do just about anything you need them to do. And great prices. I haven’t figured out what to use them for yet, but the Fanciest of Hands is definitely on my short list to give personal outsourcing a try.

 So, what could you do with an extra 2 hours? How about…

What Could You Do with an Extra 2 Hours?

What Could You Do with an Extra 2 Hours?

The Dude, A Camera, & A Canvas

I’ve always said to Mrs. Dude that “anyone can be a photographer.” Since before the Mrs. picked up a camera and started her amazing photog career, I claimed digital cameras and Photoshop threw open the doors to any yahoo that wanted to claim their title as “professional photographer.”

An endless supply of mediocre photographers littering the interwebs tells me I’m right.

On the other hand, thousands of dollars in equipment, endless hours honing ridiculous technical skills, and an artistic eye that no money or time can buy tell me the Dude is dead wrong.

Mrs. Dude, you are truly rad!

So, I straddle the fence with my own photog skills. Am I just one of the masses with the luxury of a digital camera in hand? Or does the Dude have an eye money can’t buy?

On the fence?! Nah! I’m super rad…when Mrs. Dude is there to tell me what to do and edit my shots. 🙂

Last night we gathered up the Dude clan for a quick run to the beach so I could capture Mrs. Dude’s baby belly in the perfect light a sunset throws on the dunes at dusk.

The way I look at it, we only need one great shot to make the trip a success.

The Mrs. showed me a few pics, and I must say…I nailed it! With complete direction, of course. But now Mrs. D says we aren’t posting any yet!

Wha, wha, what?! The world deserves – no NEEDS – to see the Dude’s phtog skills.

Wait?! I think not.

Little Hands, Big Belly

Little Hands, Big Belly

Awesome, right?

Honestly, I’m so biased that I have no clue if it’s any good – my wife, my kids, my baby belly, and my shot. How could I not think it’s amazing?

But what I do know is that we need this hanging in our room for inspiration leading up to the big event a short two months away. A gorgeous canvas as a daily reminder of where we’re headed and why we’re going in that direction. I love it.

Luckily, I just scored some great canvas prints from PrintCopia.com, so I know where to get this jobby job taken care of.

The PrintCopia canvases are the shiz – heavy-duty,  well made, great picture quality…an all-around gorgeous print. Check out the rad shots of Little Dude flying we just hung up…

Little Dude Flying Canvas

Little Dude Flying Canvas

Hook it up if you have some great pics (or hire the Dude…I hear I’m a rad photographer).

By the way, PrintCopia also has car magnets, custom banners, & signs.

However, I will mention one tiny detail…

I have Mrs. Dude convinced I’m a “doer.” I’m up early gettin’ at it – whatever “it” may be, and I love to say that “I got stuff done” today. As I get older, the jobs keep piling up, so I guess I just keep on truckin’.

But the reality is that I’m pretty lazy at heart. My yearbook quote in high school was,

“I’m lazy. But it’s the lazy people who invented the wheel and the bicycle because they didn’t like walking or carrying things,” by Lech Walesa.

And I’m sticking to it.

I love to get ‘er done, but sometimes the laziness wins out, and this is one of those times.

The canvases from PrintCopia are gorgeous and of high quality, but I’m a bit dismayed to report that one of two canvases (i.e. 50%) arrived with a blemish right in the center of the picture. Nothing a little white paint can’t fix, but a factual review is a factual review. I submit to you evidence numero uno…

However, overall, these are fantastic canvas prints, and a trip to the post office to send it back just seems like a lot of work, so the Dude’s laziness has won out. We’ll make it work.

With that said, if PrintCopia wants to send a canvas of the Dude’s awesome photog skills displayed above to make up for the blemish, I’m happy to report to the masses of the great customer service. Wink, wink. Nod, nod. 😉

In the end, the lessons contained herein are…

  1. Hire Mrs. Dude for your pictures. The Dude is all talk and takes all necessary direction from the true brains in this relationship – i.e. the Mrs.
  2. Buy a canvas print for your home – your Mrs. will thank you…FYI – Christmas is right around the corner!

The Dude Has Always Wanted To…Blow Glass

If I have an idea, I tend to give it a whirl.

Thanks to a wise sage (Mr. S. Barry :)), I tend to live by the motto of “Be the Expert.”

Wise words, right? We’re all just faking our way through life. Regardless of how smart we might think we are, we have no clue. Zero. Nada. Zip! We are all just making it up as we go, so we might as well “be the expert.”

I love to tell Mrs. Dude that everything is easy….she loves it too. 🙂

I know that lots of stuff is pretty darn difficult, but a huge part of me does believe that everything is pretty easy when we put our mind to it. If someone else did it, odds are, you can too.

As a result of this can-do attitude, I tend to latch onto ideas that I have no business holding on to. Like blowing glass.

Blowing glass seems awesome, right?! Shaping molten glass into gorgeous designs. Awesome.

Where do I sign up?

Then I watch a video like this that reminds me that sometimes it’s ok to leave it to the “experts.”

Who knows, someday Mrs. Dude may end up with a mis-shapened glass vase crafted by the Dude in an overcrowded garage utilizing dangerously hot materials in dangerously hazardous ways, but for now, I’m cool with watching this dude create an awesome glass blown horse in all of 90 seconds…

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JFSB3-SzgoQ[/youtube]

Hat tip to The Kid for sharing the love.